When it comes to decision making, there are two kinds of people.
The kind that keep their options open and embrace the possibility of the unknown and the kind that drown confusion in absolutes, seeking comfort in the security of long term commitments.
Group A and group B
While group A has career, family and goals planned out by age 14, group B sees life as an endless string of surprises. We all know the type and while neither group is wrong or right, they have a lot to learn from each other.
As a die-hard member of group B, I find myself constantly in awe of decision-dynamos who are married, 6 years up the ladder in their chosen profession and have a clear-set path laid ahead. They know exactly what they will be doing in 5 years time and who they will be doing it with.
As for my decision-deficit amigos and I, we thrive on the possibility of change. The dusky obscurity of a world beyond the rabbit hole is intoxicating. It becomes difficult to determine what decisions must be made and what decisions will savagely stunt our scope of imagination.
Seeing beyond your A/B inclinations
Regardless of decisions, the most important thing to note is that both groups are ruled by fear; the fear of excluding opportunities weighed against the fear of losing stability.
Bravery is a challenging concept but when it comes to planning your future, appreciating your relationship to the unknown is the key to setting your sites.
Are you running toward something or fleeing from something else?
Intellective honesty is the greatest power in the struggle to keep the specters of speculation from holding you back from what you want most.